Life is such. You do things, you may or may not get credit. Depends if you did it, how other people saw it.
Now, I am not a feminist though I have every reason to be, I am a female. I believe in equality but as I navigate through my life, I realize that men do not. I have been teaching at a community college for several years. I work passionately for my profession be it, teaching , research, mentoring students, placing them in jobs, working in committees, spending countless hours at home, just completing my work, late through night, sometimes entire night and sometime early in the morning, like today is a Saturday and I was up at 4:15am. I do what is told, and I go above and beyond. I know how to do things for best outcomes. My colleagues, they like what I do, they appreciate, they ask me for advice, but in the end credit does not really come back to me. I never snatch things from others, because that is not my style, not my principles, but they do. May be because I am young, may be because I am female, or may be because I am an immigrant, I can not decide. I typically do not fight though I express what I think is wrong. Not because I can not fight, I think to go far not just for myself, but for my students, my college, I have to be smart, I have to think!
Anyways so this is about an event that happens every year. I have spent so much time on it, its my brainchild too like other men in the room. But unlike men who do get to dominate, females do not. When it comes to leading, men lead and they nominate men to lead and then again those who lead, want men to lead. What is the role of females in this, "to assist". Its subtle, but it happens, all the time! I am sure others experience it too. What do females do, they seem to be independent and fair, that is where the problem is. The best of my female colleagues see what's right and they say that. Unlike men, women do not nominate men, they nominate the right person.
Well, the question is I am here to see how long that lasts, all the respected men who nominated other men are older than me, so they won't last, hopefully I will. I will lead some things, I will ensure excellence and fairness, and when I will nominate men I will be fair, non-partial, non-feminist and I will pass on only one message to the men I nominate, "Be fair, put aside age and male/female differences, when you choose to nominate". And if they did only that I would know I was able to propagate excellence and fairness both!
Now, I am not a feminist though I have every reason to be, I am a female. I believe in equality but as I navigate through my life, I realize that men do not. I have been teaching at a community college for several years. I work passionately for my profession be it, teaching , research, mentoring students, placing them in jobs, working in committees, spending countless hours at home, just completing my work, late through night, sometimes entire night and sometime early in the morning, like today is a Saturday and I was up at 4:15am. I do what is told, and I go above and beyond. I know how to do things for best outcomes. My colleagues, they like what I do, they appreciate, they ask me for advice, but in the end credit does not really come back to me. I never snatch things from others, because that is not my style, not my principles, but they do. May be because I am young, may be because I am female, or may be because I am an immigrant, I can not decide. I typically do not fight though I express what I think is wrong. Not because I can not fight, I think to go far not just for myself, but for my students, my college, I have to be smart, I have to think!
Anyways so this is about an event that happens every year. I have spent so much time on it, its my brainchild too like other men in the room. But unlike men who do get to dominate, females do not. When it comes to leading, men lead and they nominate men to lead and then again those who lead, want men to lead. What is the role of females in this, "to assist". Its subtle, but it happens, all the time! I am sure others experience it too. What do females do, they seem to be independent and fair, that is where the problem is. The best of my female colleagues see what's right and they say that. Unlike men, women do not nominate men, they nominate the right person.
Well, the question is I am here to see how long that lasts, all the respected men who nominated other men are older than me, so they won't last, hopefully I will. I will lead some things, I will ensure excellence and fairness, and when I will nominate men I will be fair, non-partial, non-feminist and I will pass on only one message to the men I nominate, "Be fair, put aside age and male/female differences, when you choose to nominate". And if they did only that I would know I was able to propagate excellence and fairness both!
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